Since becoming a coach, I get asked a lot about how I help my clients. My first time working with a life coach was so impactful. I knew instantly this was the career for me and I was going to invest in coaching into the foreseeable future for my own growth.
But how do you know if you should too? Below are the top 3 benefits to help you answer the question, “Should I hire a coach?”.
Coaching isn’t just about helping you get shit done. Coaches hold the space for you to be who you’re trying to be. When you’re doubting if something you've never done is possible, they remind you why it is. When you’re struggling to go back to your old patterns, they walk you through the cognitive aspects of behavior management. Most importantly, coaches already believe you’re the person you want to be and help you think and act from that mindset. They don’t have any expectation, bias, or story about who you are or what you’re capable of.
You friends, family, coworkers, all the people you usually reach out to for support already have your identity pegged. They have their own assumptions of what you’re capable of and give you advice based on who they know you to be, or worse, who they want you to be for them.
Coaches have an unconditional and unbiased consideration for you. They have no stories about who you are. They don’t believe that you can or can’t do something because of your past. In fact, they believe whatever and whoever you want to be is capable, because they understand the value of coaching. They believe change is possible because they’ve used coaching to make it happen for them and can help you do it too.
Most people don’t think accurately. This isn’t because something went wrong. It’s because the human mind filters over 20 MILLION bits of information in a split second. The way the brain processes so much information is to filter it down into just a few pieces for us to comprehend. Those “filters” determine what we notice (if you ever heard the term “rose-colored glasses” you’ll understand what I mean).
The way we filter information depends on several factors. The main factors include our previous experiences, thoughts/beliefs, and a fun little thing called negativity bias.
Neuroscientist Dr. Rick Hanson Ph.D. has spent years researching the concept of negativity bias in human cognition. I’m not going to bore you with a bunch of science and terms, but what’s the most important to understand about negativity bias is for 600 million years or so, brains have been primed to overestimate threats, underestimate opportunities, and underestimate resources for dealing with threats and fulfilling opportunities. Think a caveman instinctively knowing to avoid petting tigers, live near water, and create a community for support so they don’t die.
This is how our ancestors survived. Its innate programming is constantly running in our brains all the time. Unless we disrupt this programming and override it with a more positive, accurate one, it will continue to be the basis of all our thoughts, behaviors, and decision making.
Speaking of neuroplasticity, coaches are trained to think from a place of what’s possible. Like a muscle that responds to weight training, our minds respond to positive thinking. The more you lift weights, the more your muscles grow, the stronger the muscles get.
With coaching, your coach “trains” your mind to see the prospect of positivity in your situations. The more positivity the mind sees, the more it will continue to see, the stronger your mind will become at seeing possibilities on its own. This is what cognitive neuroscientists call Positive Neuroplasticity. With regular practice, you begin to create and strengthen new neuropathways to positivity. A coach literally teaches you to be happier and less stressed.
Old Einney said it best, “We cannot solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them”.
Life coaches help you remove old ways of thinking to better suit who you want to be. They support you in your goals, keep you accountable to better habits, teach you how to stay positive, reduce stress, and become happier and healthier. That’s why life coaching is the best investment you can make for your health, career, relationships, and your future.
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